Having advocated Chicken Soup for the Soul, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, The Answer, and The Secret, it's my pleasure to encourage those readers to acquire my mentor Bernardo Moya's great work. The Question defines the final work of growth, asking the one right QUESTION ‐and now you will…

Berny Dohrmann,
Chairman CEO Space International

Question everything. This book offers a treasure map to discover anything one could want from life and business.

Dr. Greg Reid, author of  Stickability and
co‐author of  Three feet of Gold and
Thoughts are Things

The Question challenges each of us to be engaged with issues facing the world today ‐whatever your position may be. While thought‐provoking, it is intended to highlight the way to becoming the BEST YOU possible.

Sharon Lechter, author of Think and
Grow Rich for Women, co‐author of Think and
Grow Rich, Three Feet from Gold,
Outwitting the Devil and
Rich Dad Poor Dad

Bernardo Moya has been a student, promoter of my work, and a friend for over a decade. This book offers his  view of how people change for the better. This unique view provides the reader a simple way to redefine their life, find more success and find purpose in living.

Dr. Richard Bandler, Co‐creator of NLP

Bernardo Moya's book The Question provides powerful, real and meaningful answers to  many all‐too‐common modern‐day dilemmas. His work with many of the world's greatest personal development  gurus helps to underpin the validity of his insightful message.

If you have more questions than answers in your life, buy this book now.

Paul Boross. The Pitch Doctor

Bernardo provides a fascinating insight into how to become the best you possible in every area of your life. He gives you the tools you need to deep dive and create a fulfilling life for you and those you care about most. An exciting read that will leave you motivated and inspired!

Sara Davison, The Divorce Coach and
best‐selling author of  Uncoupling.

“Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers”, is a famous expression from Voltaire. In his book, Bernardo Moya brings the wisdom of questions that the world needs to answer and act upon, and for all of us to explore in order to leave a legacy before we end our journey on this planet.

Mirela Sula, Founder of Global Woman Magazine
and Global Woman Club

Dear friend,

What do you want out of life and how can you get it? This is The Question we all must ask ourselves if we want fulfilment, if we are looking for a meaning to our lives, if we want to be more. And this is The Question this book is here to help you answer.

My life so far has been interesting, challenging and exhilarating. I've worked very hard, I've lost everything, I've felt tremendous happiness and terrible fear. I've hit rock‐bottom many times. It's been scary, frustrating, and overwhelming at times, but it has also been exciting, fun and deeply fulfilling. I've really lived.

My pride and joy? My family, without a doubt. I've worked thousands of hours, many more than I should have, sacrificing time with my family. It's all been in pursuit of my dream to help people be the best they can be in order to live their best life.

I came to the world of personal development late in life. In my early forties I found myself in a place of despair, darkness and tremendous uncertainty, after losing everything and going bankrupt. I knew I had to start all over again and I did.

I found a book that inspired me. It triggered something in me. The book was Change Your Life in Seven Days by Paul McKenna. After reading it I attended a seminar called Licensed Practitioner of Neuro‐Linguistic Programming with Dr Richard Bandler, one of the co‐founders of the technique.

The seminar left me feeling empowered and inspired like never before, and I knew others would feel the same. I was determined to help spread this message of personal development.

Maybe something similar has happened to you. Maybe it was a seminar, a book, a quote, or something someone said to you. It gives a feeling that you are hearing the right question at the right time. It's a turning point that makes you look at your life more closely, forcing you to think about what you can do to realise your fullest potential and to help others.

At that time I was working in real estate and knew what I was doing wasn't fulfilling enough for me. I knew I needed more and I had more to give. Do you feel like that? Do you want to do more? To be more?

To fast‐forward, for the last 10 years I have been working with Dr Richard Bandler and Paul McKenna, promoting them, supporting their methods and understanding of teaching and helping more people discover how to unlock their potential. My company, NLP Life Training, is now the largest NLP training company in the world.

Five years into that journey, I founded The Best You, a personal development platform dedicated to helping others enhance their lives through live events, EXPOs, online learning, and publications.

To say I've learned a lot is an understatement. It hasn't always been easy, but I've met some incredible people along the way. True professionals who are passionate about helping others and inspiring them to take control of their lives, to overcome and to achieve.

I want to believe that everyone starts with the best intentions. But unfortunately there are many in the personal development industry—an industry that is supposed to help others—who are in it for the wrong reasons.

• I have come across many experts who simply copy someone else
• I have come across authors, coaches, trainers, thinkers who are not congruent with their publicly stated ‘beliefs’ or with what they preach—many sad and angry people with massive egos.
• I have met quite a few that could do with reading their own book, memorising it and putting it into practice.
• I have attended many seminars where ultimately the only goal was to sell to the audience, to close on a large percentage of people in the room and sell the seminar's next programme.

In the industry of personal and self‐development, there is unfortunately an element of what I call ‘selfish development’. Some are in it simply, as I said, for the wrong reasons. They have lost their way and it's purely about them making money.

And then there are the consumers of the books, talks and seminars. I have realised there are three primary types of these individuals:

Type 1

• Those who don't continue to grow. They learn certain things in school and life, but that is where it stops. They get on with it and really ‘live’ a relatively basic life. They've let go. They've given up. They are ‘those who kneel’.

Type 2

• Those who try to move forward but get stuck in their insecurities; too scared of change, or taking action. They dream big things but never actually get there; they keep procrastinating. They are basically ‘sitting and looking’.

Type 3

• Last but not least, those who go and make it happen. Those who are prepared to evolve, to change, to grow, to explore, to help others and who are literally willing to die attempting to become the best version of themselves in their endeavour to help and change the world. Those who are standing up, leading the way, being watched by others and admired. This book is for those people.

Which one of the three would you rather be?

One of the books and authors that has recently impacted me very positively is Braving the Wilderness by Brené Brown. Brené writes about standing alone as a metaphor for bravely forging your own path, which is a courage required by every entrepreneur (or any person putting themselves out there).

Before I read Brené's book, I had spent a lot of time considering my life; and her words only served to galvanise my feelings that I would rather be alone. And what I mean by that is…

I would rather be alone if that is what it takes to be true to myself.

I would rather be alone than be with people who hurt me or don't believe in me.

I would rather be alone than be surrounded by negative people or negative words.

I would rather be alone than be with people who don't believe everyone is equal.

I would rather be alone than be with someone I don't believe in.

I would rather be alone than be with people who don't believe we can make the world a better place.

The world has more ways to stay in communication with each other today than in any other time in history, yet there is a lack of connection, of real engagement in old‐fashioned deep and meaningful conversations and empathy. We humans have a natural need to connect, to rely on others, to love, to feel love, and the fact is that not even ‘experts’ are experts in all matters. We all need help.

But here is the thing: you live once. You think you have a long time ahead, but life is short. You have less time left than you had yesterday. And it's decreasing all the time. You must make the changes that will help you get the most out of your life now.

The first thing you need to do is to be honest, honest with yourself. I discuss honesty in a later chapter. Honesty is a quality that many people struggle with. And let's be honest about being honest: if you can't be honest with yourself how can you be honest with anyone else? Which means you must STOP lying to yourself, STOP procrastinating, STOP letting others dictate your life, STOP blaming others, and face the music and deal right now with the all the things you know you need to deal with.

I believe we are obliged to become the best version of ourselves. Not only to benefit ourselves and those around us, but to care for the world and confront the many challenges facing humankind.

Marine biologist and explorer Dr Sylvia Earle said, ‘You cannot care about what you do not know about.’

The fact is, if you see something wrong in the world you can either do nothing or something.

I prefer to do something. You? This book will help you focus on doing something positive rather than letting life pass you by.

I am passionate about doing what I can to make the world a better place. My pledge with all my work is to help educate, support, and create awareness on how everyone can become the best version of themselves.

Throughout my life I have had to work very hard, and although I have had an amazing team around me and the support of my family, no one in particular has gone out of their way to help me. You cannot rely on others. It is down to you to do the hard work.

I also learned many years ago that you can't please everyone all the time, and that's OK.

If you want to become the best version of yourself—The Best You; not the best copy of someone else—you must start by asking yourself important questions. This book is here to help you do that. So if you believe we have to make this amazing, beautiful world of ours a much better place to live in, let's join forces and DO SOMETHING.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who worked for many years in palliative care. She spent years recording the regrets of those who were nearing the end of their life and compiled them in a best‐selling book, The Top Five Regrets of the Dying. The book listed the most common regrets as:

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

   The most common regret occurs when people who recognise the end is near look back and see how many of their dreams have been unrealised.

2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish I had let myself be happier.

   ‘Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice,’ writes Ware, of patients who had stayed stuck in old habits. Familiarity deadened their emotions. ‘Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.’

We must have moral responsibility and strive to do our best to live a life without regrets.

Let me end with this: An explorer I interviewed called Roz Savage told me that she once wrote two eulogies for herself. The first was based on her life and her current achievements; continuing to live as she was, not taking too many risks.

The second eulogy was one with no regrets, doing the things that excited her, that gave her goosebumps, and made her feel alive. This second one is a life where, at the end of it, you know you've lived and that you've made a difference.

This book will encourage you to be completely honest with yourself. It will show you how to learn. How to think, to be aware of the quality of those thoughts and to encourage yourself to always think big. And it will teach you that it's never too late to achieve anything you want in life. Becoming The Best You starts with YOU

And what I mean by this is to stop blaming other people, circumstances, where you live, the economy. Start Now! Why not?

In my years working with and promoting the very best in the world of personal development, I have seen many people radically change for the better through self‐help guidance. I've seen extraordinary transformations. People who have felt desperate and hopeless about their weight, their work, their family, or their life in general, have gone on to take powerful advice or enter a life‐changing programme. I have even seen people on the brink of suicide find new meaning in life, and go on to embrace their futures with renewed hope and positivity.

It is a heartening and empowering experience watching geniuses at work—and deeply rewarding. Knowing that the work I do can connect people with empowering ideas and make their lives so much better is what keeps me going. Knowing how transformative this work can be, I am extremely happy to recommend that you read and study the greats (I name a few later). At the same time, working with and closely studying these luminaries, I have formed my own insights into success and helping people get what they want in life. I've seen what works, and I've witnessed what doesn't. That is what I'm offering here, to share with you all the powerful insights that I have built up over the last decade.

Important to note is that, when you work with so many greats it's difficult to come forward and share your story, but there comes a time in life when you need to come forward, step up, hold the flag, stand under the light.

This book in very simple terms intends to make you think, to make you think quality thoughts, to think BIG (there is no other way) and to ask yourself POSITIVE and EMPOWERING QUESTIONS. That is it in a nutshell.

I've used my experience to help me build up my business, The Best You. It offers a platform to showcase the techniques and advice from the world's greatest thought leaders. Techniques I've seen result in positive change. That's how I know they work.

At the same time, I'm human. I have flaws. I've made many mistakes (and still make them!), and that's another reason why I'm writing this book—so you don't have to make my mistakes and so that you can benefit from my experience.

My journey of self‐discovery took a real turn in my mid‐thirties. Up to then, I had experienced life at a reactive level, without really taking charge. Even so, I thought I was relatively well‐read and pretty successful thanks to my skills in selling.

My early years were no different nor more challenging than many other people. I was born in London, the son of Spanish immigrants—both were very hardworking, as immigrants often are. I was later raised in Spain by my two loving parents who saw to it that I grew up happy and secure.

That changed at the age of 15, when my father died. My mum, as many widowed parents do, became ‘super human,’ working hard to provide for me, ensuring I had a great education, and giving me a firm understanding of the importance of hard work, respect and self‐belief.

My early jobs included working in a bar as a DJ during summers and on weekends starting when I was 15 up until my mid‐twenties. I also spent 13 months in the military police at the age of 19. But my first proper job came when I was 20 when I started selling timeshare properties.

I went broke twice. The first time was at the age of 26. I had a nine‐month‐old son and a pregnant wife at the time, and there was nothing to do but carry on. Five years later, though, I was worth millions on paper. The going was good for many years.

Then, at the age of 40, I lost it all again. This second time around was much worse. I went from living a very comfortable life in a beautiful house with money in the bank to having nothing overnight. It was terrifying. I'd wake up in the middle of the night worried, doubting myself, and unsure of how I was going to provide for my loved ones.

What I learned was I had to go back to basics, and take a day at a time.

But the second bankruptcy also brought another turning point. Things were changing. I had already started to get a new understanding of myself and the world, and this second great loss was what cleared the way for me to follow my true passion.

So, what started this transformation?

As I mentioned previously it was Paul McKenna's Change Your Life In Seven Days, when I became aware of Neuro‐Linguistic Programming.

The book was powerful, and after taking NLP training and attending numerous seminars run by Paul McKenna in London, the extraordinary changes I saw in people at those trainings inspired me so much that I decided to help others. Back then, I also wanted to put into writing what I had begun to learn, so others could benefit from it. I became an NLP Practitioner, Master Practitioner, and eventually an NLP Trainer under the guidance of Dr Richard Bandler, co‐creator of NLP.

But there was plenty more for me to do in‐between times, and many more life lessons to come. They say your passion pulls you in certain directions, and I soon found that after Paul moved to America, I had the opportunity to continue running the training courses in London for Richard Bandler and at a later date Paul McKenna too.

I remember the day I made the decision to take that opportunity. I was at home, sitting with my wife in Spain, in the middle of an unfolding disaster. At the time, my real estate company was going under, and now I was being told that the option of running a training company was on the table. What should I do? There was a moment when I had to decide. Was I willing to pursue it? If I did, it meant leaving my family in Spain, commuting weekly to London and promoting events and seminars—something new that I had absolutely no idea about. I had experience in sales and marketing, but not running events and everything that is required to put them together.

Suddenly, the questions came to me: If not me, then who? And if not now, then when?

It was a surreal moment. With that decision I became a high‐profile leader for the man I had been learning NLP from. One day I'm training with these guys, the next day I am trying to negotiate fees.

It was a huge leap. Yet, it was the right thing to do.

Ten years on, my company is one of the largest personal development organisations in the world. We train and connect with tens of thousands of people every year through our events. We hold The Best You EXPOs and publish one of the foremost personal development magazines with over 50,000 digital subscribers. And along the way I have had the pleasure of meeting, working with and interviewing so many great people.

I am now over 50 and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that it's vital to adapt. The NLP training company I took over has grown and changed so much in 10 years, and I've had to change along with it. I'm now also Chief Inspirational Officer of The Best You, a leading personal development company based in London, with a global reach. My personal experience from seeing the good that personal development can do, from seeing the extraordinary, talented people who help others find their way in the world, has inspired me to write this book.

I can't possibly list them all, but the work and books of many self‐help geniuses have shaped me. Napoleon Hill, Jim Rohn, Stephen R. Covey, Tony Robbins, Les Brown, Brian Tracey, Eckhart Tolle, Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor, Robert Kiyosaki, Sharon Lechter, Richard Branson, John DeMartini, Deepak Chopra, Dr Kevin Schwartz, Jason Vale, Sir Clive Woodward, Michael Neill, Robert Holden, Grant Cardone, Barbara de Angelis, Mastin Kipp and Breneé Brown are just a few. And of course I've had the honour to work directly with John LaValle, Paul McKenna and especially Dr Richard Bandler who I am deeply grateful to.

In my personal development journey, I've been privileged to meet people who have helped bring about changes in people's lives, not only in developed countries but also in those in some of the most trying conditions in the world. I've met inspirational leaders, artists, Olympians, businesspeople, healers and helpers.

With all the knowledge and wisdom I've absorbed, I have come to realise I can't just keep my insights to myself. I know others will find them powerful. Useful.

Everything created in the world is originated by a question. Questioning things is good—being curious, wanting to know more, pushing yourself on.

In this book I look at the core skills of how some people push themselves and go further, while others simply give up—live without attempting to make a dent in this planet.

Life is a collection of memories of moments; understanding your true meaning and purpose will ensure you live a life with no regrets. A life where hopefully at the end of your days you will know you did everything in your power to truly live a fulfilled life.

So, this book is designed to encourage you to ask the same questions of yourself that the extraordinary people I've met over the years, in their different ways, have asked themselves.

The Question has many forms:

• What am I here for?
• What can I do to make a difference in the world?
• How do I live a fulfilled, happy life?
• What do I do now?
• How do I make the world a better place?

That is what this book is about, and it is also about the attitude of those who have successfully answered those questions.

I believe you're a tenant on our planet and you have obligations, responsibilities.

Don't hide, don't leave it to others! Don't leave it to ‘them’.

The model I'm offering in this book comes from a lifetime of experience; from pursuing the wrong ways to go as well as the right ways to go; of continual change; of fighting to survive and getting on.

Over my ten years in the personal development industry, I have met and connected with more than a hundred thousand people.

This book is dedicated to you if you want to push yourself, find out what you are capable of, so you can ultimately be THE BEST YOU CAN BE.

No excuses, no bullshit. Just keep going and be relentless in your quest.

You can refer my web page www.bernardo-moya.com and the books web page (now live) www.thequestion.co for further information.