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Borderline Personality Disorder For Dummies

2. Aufl.

von: Charles H. Elliott, Laura L. Smith
16,99 €
Verlag:	Wiley
Format:	PDF
Veröffentl.:	13.10.2020
ISBN/EAN:	9781119714330
Sprache:	englisch
Anzahl Seiten:	416

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Get to know the ins and outs of BPD—and make the choice to change! Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is an extremely serious—and often seriously neglected—condition. Despite around 4 million diagnoses in the USA, BPD has attracted lower funding and levels of clinical concern than more "popular" conditions such as bipolar disorder. But there's no need to lose hope! Borderline Personality Disorder For Dummies, 2nd Edition was written to bridge this gap and help sufferers learn how to break the cycle to lead a full and happy life. BPD impacts the way you think and feel about yourself and others and can cause long-term patterns of disruptive relationships and difficulties with self-control. It often results from childhood abuse or neglect, as well as from genetic or brain abnormalities—particularly in areas of the brain that regulate emotion, impulsivity, and aggression. Knowing how it works means we know how to manage it, and Borderline Personality Disorder For Dummies—written in a friendly, easy-to-follow style by two leading clinical psychologists—is packed with useful techniques to do just that: from identifying triggers to finding the right care provider. <ul> <li>Get a compassionate, actionable understanding of the symptoms and history of BPD</li> <li>Acquire techniques to identify and halt damaging behaviors</li> <li>Evaluate providers and the latest therapies and treatments</li> <li>Set goals and habits to overcome problems step-by-step</li> </ul> BPD should never be allowed to dictate anyone's existence. This reference gives you the tools to take your life back and is a must-have for sufferers and their loved ones alike.

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Introduction 1 About This Book 1 Foolish Assumptions 2 Icons Used in This Book 3 Beyond the Book 3 Where to Go from Here 3 Chapter 1: Exploring Borderline Personality Disorder 7 Breaking Down Borderline Personality Disorder 8 Unpredictable relationships 9 Acting without thinking 9 Volatile emotions 10 Confusing thoughts 10 Exploring the Origins of BPD 11 Counting the Costs of BPD 12 Health costs 12 Financial and career-related costs 13 The toll on family and friends 14 Treating BPD 15 Psychotherapy 15 Medication 16 Relating to People Who Have BPD 16 Chapter 2: Defining Personality to Understand BPD 19 Characterizing Personality 20 Differentiating Healthy from Unhealthy 20 Openness: Seeking new experiences 22 Flexibility: Rolling with the punches 22 Emotional regulation: Controlling what you express 23 Ability to delay gratification: Controlling impulses 24 Conscientiousness: Responsible and reliable 24 Interpersonal effectiveness: Having good relationships 25 Emotional resiliency: Bouncing back from tough breaks 25 Self-acceptance: Seeing yourself as you really are 26 Accurate perception of reality: Seeing the world as it is 26 Moderation: Avoiding extremes 27 Chapter 3: Describing BPD 29 The Nine Symptoms of BPD 30 1 Sensation seeking (impulsivity) 30 2 Self-harm 31 3 Roller coaster emotions 31 4 Explosiveness 31 5 Worries about abandonment 32 6 Unclear and unstable self-concept 32 7 Emptiness 32 8 Up-and-down relationships 32 9 Dissociation: Feeling out of touch with reality 33 Diagnosing BPD: Like Ordering from a Chinese Menu 33 High or Low Functioning 38 BPD Over the Life Span 38 Other Personality Disorders 39 The odd and eccentric 40 The dramatic and erratic 43 The anxious and fearful 46 Emotional Disorders That Accompany BPD 50 Anxiety 51 Trauma and stressor-related disorders 52 Obsessive-compulsive and related disorders 53 Depressive disorders 54 Bipolar and related disorders 54 Other emotional disorders 56 Chapter 4: Exploring the Root Causes of BPD 59 Beginning with Biology 60 Genetics 60 Brain chemistry and functioning 61 Psychological Factors 62 Problematic parenting 63 Abuse and trauma 66 Separation and loss 67 Disorganized and disrupted families 67 Social and Cultural Influences 68 The neighborhood 69 Friends and peers 70 The teen years 70 Social media 70 Cultural factors 71 Mixing and Matching Risk Factors 74 Biological and psychological factors 75 Biological and social influences 76 Psychological and social causes 76 A full biopsychosocial mix 77 Part 2: The Major BPD Symptoms 79 Chapter 5: Sensation Seeking and Self-Harm: The Impulsivity of BPD 81 Living Dangerously: Impulsive Behavior 82 Hurting for Help 84 Types of self-harming acts 84 Why hurt yourself? 85 Suicide: Seeking the Ultimate Escape 88 A cry for help or an attempt at revenge? 89 Who’s at risk? 89 Chapter 6: Explosive Feelings and Moods 91 Emotions 101 91 Primitive emotions 93 Thoughtful emotions 95 Emotions — Borderline Style 95 Struggling to recognize and express emotions 97 Having emotions about emotions 98 Chapter 7: Missing Persons: Identity Problems and BPD 99 The Concept of Identity 100 What is identity? 100 How does identity develop? 102 Borderline Identity: Unstable and Fragile 104 Waffling identities 105 Worries about identity 106 Chapter 8: Perceiving, Understanding, and Relating to Others 107 Standing in Other People’s Shoes 108 Understanding other people 108 Seeing yourself through other people’s eyes 110 Causing unintended hurt 111 Busting through Boundaries 113 Disrespecting partners and lovers 114 Slighting friends and co-workers 115 Straining relationships with helpers 115 Riding roughshod over kids 116 Chapter 9: BPD and Extreme Thinking 117 Understanding How You See the World 117 How schemas develop 118 Types of schemas 119 Why schemas are hard to change 120 BPD Schemas: No Middle Ground 121 Self-concept schemas 121 Relationship schemas 124 World schemas 127 Chapter 10: Slipping Away from Reality 131 Discovering Dissociation 132 Feeling Paranoid or Delusional 134 Having Hallucinations 135 When You Have BPD and Feel Crazy 137 Part 3: Making the Choice to Change 139 Chapter 11: Researching and Choosing BPD Treatments 141 Exploring BPD Treatment Settings 142 Working individually with a therapist 142 Giving groups a chance 142 Spending more time in treatment: Partial hospitalization 143 Needing more care: Inpatient psychiatric wards 143 Combining and changing treatments 144 Researching the Treatment Strategies That Work for BPD 144 Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) 145 Mentalization-based therapy (MBT) 145 Transference-focused psychotherapy (TFP) 146 Cognitive therapy 146 Schema therapy 147 Transdiagnostic treatment 148 Metacognitive therapy (MCT) 148 Systems training for emotional predictability and problem solving (STEPPS) 148 Acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) 149 Compassion focused therapy (CFT) 149 Medication 149 Common factors in therapies 149 Choosing a Mental Health Professional 150 Primary healthcare providers 152 Psychologists 153 Psychiatrists 153 Counselors 154 Marriage and family therapists 154 Psychiatric nurses 155 Social workers 155 Starting Treatment 156 Evaluating your therapy 156 Giving therapy some time 157 Chapter 12: Breaking Through Barriers to Change 159 Overcoming the Fear of Change 160 Losing who you are: It’s not going to happen 161 Opening up: No need for cold feet 161 Dreading even more loss: Try not to test the ones who want to help 162 Fearing treatment: Don’t let therapy myths hold you back 162 Looking at fears of change in action 164 Taking Charge and Giving Up the Victim Role 165 Ending the blame game 165 Thinking like a victim: It doesn’t help 166 Finding forgiveness and coping 167 Stop Procrastinating 167 Dismantling excuses 167 Debating the decision 169 Getting Comfortable with the Process of Change 171 Chapter 13: Explaining BPD to Others 173 Deciding Whether and Whom to Tell 174 The benefits and costs of telling 174 Figuring out whom to tell 176 Deciding What to Tell 180 Educating yourself 180 Deciding how much to say 181 Telling Your Story Effectively 184 Chapter 14: Taking Care of Yourself 187 Dealing with Stress 187 Reviewing how stress affects health 188 Managing and reducing stress 189 Taking Better Care of Your Body 190 Revising your diet 191 Energizing with exercise 192 Getting enough sleep 192 Taking healthy actions 195 Finding More Time for Yourself 196 Part 4: Treatments for BPD 197 Chapter 15: Inhibiting Impulsivity 199 Increasing Your Awareness of Impulsive Behavior 200 Write down your impulsive acts 200 A case study of working on impulsiveness 202 Putting the Brakes on Impulsivity 206 Putting time on your side 206 Putting off your impulses 208 Doing something different 209 Fire drilling 209 Seeking Healthier Alternatives 211 Chapter 16: Calming the Storms Within 213 Putting a Name Tag on Feelings 214 Understanding the thought-feeling connection 214 Practicing emotional regulation 215 Forbidding Feelings from Ruling Over Thoughts 216 Doing the opposite of what you feel 217 Calming down with coping self-statements 218 Relaxing and Practicing 219 Making muscles relax 219 Soothing through the senses 223 Visualizing calm 224 Discovering Meditation 225 Benefits of meditation 225 How to meditate 226 Types of meditation 227 Meditation myths 229 Acquiring Acceptance 230 Discovering your observant mind 231 Playing with your judgmental mind 233 Chapter 17: Creating an Identity 235 Clarifying What’s Important in Your Life 236 Finding your personal priorities 236 Creating a personal life mission statement 239 Finding Forgiveness and Self-Compassion 242 Forgiving yourself first 242 Going from self-forgiveness to self-compassion 243 Fumbling to forgive others 244 Chapter 18: Putting Yourself in Other People’s Shoes 247 Understanding Others’ Points of View 248 Projecting: Thinking others feel what you feel 248 Practicing perspective taking 250 Noticing Your Impact on Others 255 Decreasing Defensiveness 255 Taking the “I” out of interactions 256 Putting a friend on your side 257 Musing over defusing 257 Getting Along Better 258 Listening 259 Giving compliments 259 Pillowing rather than pummeling 260 Chapter 19: Finding Shades of Gray: Changing Problematic Core Beliefs 261 Schema Busting Strategies 262 Recognizing the effects of schemas on your feelings 263 Exorcising problematic childhood schemas 266 Tabulating a cost-benefit analysis 268 Adopting Adaptive Schemas 271 Taking the direct approach 272 Staying on track with flash cards 273 Chapter 20: Considering Medication for BPD 277 Putting Medications on Trial 277 Getting Help from Medications 279 Considerations for taking medication 280 Precautions to consider 280 Surveying the Medicine Cabinet 282 Antidepressants 282 Neuroleptics 285 Mood stabilizers 286 Anti-anxiety medications (minor tranquilizers) 286 Problems with the Polypharmacy Strategy 286 Making the Medication Decision 287 Part 5: Advice for People Who Care 289 Chapter 21: What to Do When Your Partner Has BPD 291 Understanding Borderline Behaviors within Relationships 292 Going to extremes 292 Giving you the silent treatment 293 Gaslighting 295 Initiating isolation 296 Shaking up the present 297 Expressing entitlement 297 Acting impulsively 298 Feeling rejected and abandoned 299 Misinterpreting threats to self-esteem 300 Staying Safe: Emotionally and Physically 301 Dealing with your partner’s self-abuse 302 Knowing what to do when you’re the recipient of abuse 302 Walking Away from BPD 304 Debating the decision 304 Leaving abusive relationships if you decide to do so 306 Leaving nonabusive relationships if you decide to do so 308 Remaining in a Relationship 309 What does love have to do with it? 309 Hanging in for the long haul 310 Chapter 22: Befriending People with BPD 311 Recognizing Warning Signs of BPD 312 Determining When You’re Vulnerable to BPD Influence 315 Detecting Serious Symptoms 316 Handling Friends with BPD 317 What you can do 317 What you can’t do 319 Dealing with Dangerous Situations 321 Ending a BPD Relationship 322 Making your exit 322 Wrangling with guilt 323 Sticking with a Friend Who Has BPD 324 Chapter 23: Parenting Children at Risk for BPD 325 Heeding Early Warning Signs 326 Identifying problem behaviors 327 Pursuing a diagnosis 328 Looking at Risk Factors 329 Finding the Right Help 330 Loving Tough 332 Supporting without fostering 332 Setting limits 333 Dealing with a dangerous or out-of-control child 335 Managing screen time and social media 336 Taking Care of Everyone Else — Including Yourself 337 Parenting Adult Kids with BPD 338 Chapter 24: Advice for Adult Children of BPD Parents 339 Mourning the Perfect Childhood 340 Understanding the impact of BPD on children 340 Reviewing your relationship with your parent 342 Moving on with Your Life 344 Setting boundaries 344 Soliciting support 346 Becoming resilient 346 Chapter 25: Advice for Therapists of People with BPD 347 Detecting BPD in the Early Stages of Therapy 348 Maintaining Objectivity 350 Keeping your therapist ego on the shelf 351 Keeping therapist expectations within bounds 352 Understanding Boundaries 353 Dealing with Boundaries 354 Taking Care of Yourself 358 Part 6: The Part of Tens 361 Chapter 26: Ten Quick Ways to Settle Down 363 Breathing Away Distress 363 Chilling Your Hot Emotions 364 Picking Up Your Pace 364 Massaging Away the Blues 365 Surfing for Distraction 365 Reading (or Listening to) a Great Book 365 Mellowing Out in a Movie 366 Playing to Improve Your Mood 366 Phoning a Friend 366 Getting Outside 367 Chapter 27: Ten Ways to Say You’re Sorry 369 Saying the Words Out Loud 369 Asking for Forgiveness 370 Running an Errand 370 Sending Flowers 371 Sending a Card 371 Doing a Chore 371 Writing Your Thoughts 371 Finding a Poem 372 Sending a Small Gift 372 Making Amends: Giving or Volunteering 372 Chapter 28: Ten Things You Shouldn’t Do 375 Expect Quick Fixes 375 Stay Stuck 376 Choose Chiropractic Medicine 376 Stick Pins and Needles 376 Find a Life Coach 377 Fill Up Emptiness with Food or Drink 377 Try Too Hard 377 Gaze at Crystals 378 Get the Wrong Therapy 378 Hope That Medications Will Cure BPD 379 Appendix: Resources for You 381 Index 385

Autorenportrait

Charles H. Elliott, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and Professor Emeritus, Fielding Graduate University. Laura L. Smith, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and Past-President, New Mexico Psychological Association. Both authors have extensive experience in the treatment of emotional disorders.

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<ul> <li>Recognize and understand the symptoms of BPD</li> <li>Practice strategies for staying in control</li> <li>Find support for loved ones</li> </ul> How to manage BPD and live well The turmoil caused by borderline personality disorder can lead to chaotic behavior and emotional anguish, resulting in self-image issues, difficulty managing emotions, impulsivity, and a pattern of unstable relationships. This is a must-have reference for patients and loved ones alike, packed with information and practice-proven techniques on how to understand, accept, and overcome BPD to live a full and flourishing life. Inside... <ul> <li>Identify causes of the disorder</li> <li>Examine the symptoms</li> <li>Evaluate treatment options</li> <li>Manage stress and improve your physical health</li> <li>Explore new therapies</li> <li>Get the latest on medication</li> <li>Learn to calm your emotions</li> <li>Support a loved one who has BPD</li> </ul>